What Is Love?

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JAMES: Love is grand. It is the reason we all quest for in our lives…it is an abstract of our innate social dependencies and need to not feel alone in this world. Our desire to feel understood.
Love allows us to existentially continue day-to-day without our subconscious fear of abandonment.
Love is an extremely complex emotion to humans yet is implicitly comprehended by animals in raw, simplistic format. Without the complications of human premeditative construct.
There is nothing more grand than knowing you will not be alone and forgotten on your very last day…
Love is the excuse humans use to behave with wild emotional, euphoric abandonment.
To be in Love unconditionally…is to know one’s Soul.

AVY WAVY: What you describe is attachment. Not love.

JAMES: Attachment is Love. Attachment is one facet of which compromises love wholesale. Attachment is a structure of dependency. Without attachment, there can not exist Love.

AVY WAVY: Attachment is a survival mechanism. It’s extremely important to our livelihood on a physiological level, but most ppl don’t develop secure attachment during childhood and then they go forward looking for the same kind of attachment, which they crave on a subconscious, biological level. It’s codependency.
Love is accepting and not transactional like attachment is.
Attachment is based out of necessity and often we enter into conditional or non self honoring attachments.
Love is something we innately have in abundance and is shared willingly, without putting expectations or imposing our will on another.

JAMES: It is impossible to become ‘in love’ with someone without the structure of ‘attachment’ as foundational to the continuing pursuit of an emotional relationship. Possession is an act of attachment…the confusion in the academic comprehension put out into the public domain is not comprehending the slivers of which compromise Love as a whole.
Without quantification of consciousness (genesis of psychology ergo consciousness)…the espousing of love by psychiatry is impotent. It’s so banal and elementary how academia claims comprehension of consciousness without the ability to quantify consciousness at root structure.

AVY WAVY: I think you confuse “in love” with the feelings our bodies experience from chemical reactions of forming attachment.
I don’t believe that possession is a part of love. It is attachment.
Love is not formed out of need. It’s formed out of connection.

JAMES: You’re referring to blatant, simplistic definition of attachment. Academic description of love is two dimensional aka linear in application.
Love is extremely sophisticated and complex. Love is the apex of all emotions combined. It compromises the myriads of (psychological) emotives. Every emotion is contained, aggregated, combined, conflated into the catch-all of Love.
Attachment by definition is a structure of dependency. Ego-centric. Narcissism is a simplified example of love, relative to one’s self. Intradependency is another simplified example of ‘love’.
Nor is “Love is something we innately have in abundance” as it is a learned behavior through relational interaction. A person born alone does not know the context of love other than ego-centric albeit in rather simplistic, mundane manner.
Love is not “…shared willingly”. You are making specific statements without reference to lineal construct of all the ingredients that ‘create’ love in a person or animal.
Attachment is not” based out of necessity” but is an elemental foundation of Love. How can a human fall in love without feeling(s) of attachment?
You are applying self-interest aka selfishness as the attachment instead of recognizing attachment as one of countless building blocks (foundation) of which Love is comprised of.

AVY WAVY: Attachment is simply a survival mechanism.

JAMES: Every person in ‘love’ has some degree of attachment. That is exactly what inter/intra/co dependent traits comprise of.

AVY WAVY: Attachment has both selfish and communal benefits.

JAMES: Don’t look at the superficial nor aesthetic definition of love…delve deeper into the developmental structure of the abstraction consciousness and how it evolves love itself.
Love is complex and contains every emotional structure…yet, we all yearn for love…in our personal understanding and/or comprehension.
Scale ‘love’ with how animals ‘love’. There is attachment…without condition (sans infatuation).You are using ‘attachment’ as an objectification. This is incorrect.

AVY WAVY: Not at all. I respect attachment. But it is different than love.
Love is intentional
Attachment is a need
Yes we do attach to people we love, of course.

JAMES: Think in greater terms…think in quantum format.

Secondary definition as Oxford Language dictionary:
affection, fondness, or sympathy for someone or something.
“she felt a sentimental attachment to the place”

Love is not intentional…sigh…love is uncontrollable due to aggregation of emotions.

AVY WAVY: But keep in mind that you should be intentional about how you love and also be self honoring. Because often following attachment leads us to become very confused.

JAMES: Incorrect…you are applying love as an object now.
You are applying love as if a procedure.

AVY WAVY: Sometimes our love can be harmful if we are not careful
That’s attachment

JAMES: Love is healthy without self-preoccupation. You are talking dysfunction of one’s self in the perversion of healthy codependency aka love.
Attachment exists as one of the base objectification of love.
You are describing love as materialistic.

AVY WAVY: I feel it is important to identify the distinction between the two because most people have unhealthy attachment and don’t realize that it isn’t love they are experiencing.

JAMES: Love, as wholesale, is the comprising (aggregation) of all emotions and is ego-centric.
When you delve deeper into the construct of love itself…you will see that the position you have is superficial…delve deeper…realize that attachment is simple construct contributing to the highly complex sophistication of love…in aggregation.

AVY WAVY: Love is possibly too subjective for us both to agree on.

JAMES: It’s not…it’s super deep. It relate to our construct of consciousness itself.

Think beyond academia’s protestations of ‘what love is’…consciousness can’t exist without attachment (relative to societal construct such as living in a city).

We must comprehend our own ego(-centric) need (which relates to emotionally-motivated desire and pursuit aka predatorial drive) in achieving/acquiring an emotional state which is presented as extremely complex…yet described with academic rudimentary comprehension.

Consciousness is the abstraction of the false positive to which only biology can organically compartmentalize…

That’s why those theorists and behaviorists are fumbling to comprehend consciousness…they can’t even quantify consciousness (sentient trait markers) in animals…yet, silly people like Skinner present banality to which society’s academics embrace…then later debunk.

Read Skinner’s Beyond Freedom And Dignity…it’s like reading a child’s crayon book.
First 8 pages, he’s painted himself into a corner…hence why he complicates through medical terminology his attempts to obfuscate is miscomprehension.

AVY WAVY: Arf arf bark bark I will read this last reply but then I will go and think about our conversation. I need to lay down. Not feeling well.

JAMES: It’s been a tough week for the world…

Rest.

And genuinely, thank you for stimulating the conversation.

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